Does gay sex feel good
I'm a Woman Who's Sleeping With a Gay Man (Yes, He's Still Gay)
For the past year, I’ve been having regular sex with a gay bloke I'll call Oliver. We were foremost friends for years, attending many Movement parades and taking weekend hiking trips. But last year, after a very drunken night, we slept together—and we still are today. He maintains that he still is, and always has been, a queer man.
After the first time, we were predictably awkward and British about it. We laughed a bit that it had happened, and then we agreed we shouldn’t perform it again.
That lasted maybe three days. The first limited months had all the expected stimulating parts of sleeping with your optimal bud, but they were also tinged with this mark new fresh thing. Oliver had never been with a woman before, and he was completely unaware of what a vulva or a clitoris was. Fortunately, Oliver had the benefit of my feminist Orgasm Gap rants over the past five years, and took to the task of making me come with admirable tenacity. One of the sweetest moments of that year was finding the book She Comes First on his bedside table.
Men I’ve slept with before often have this false bravado around sex, like they need
Mythbusting: What Queer Men Really Perform In Bed
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Now here he was at the O2, seated among the commoners, with an opportunity to help bring the Genesis story full-circle. Instead, he took the unselfish (if, let’s face it, slightly unsatisfying) route: avoiding the spotlight and letting his former bandmates appreciate the curtain phone they’d rightly earned. (“Me going was a rite of passage, really,” the singer told Mojo in 2023. “I’d been part of the creation of Genesis, so I wanted to be there at the end.”)
Here’s the thing, though: A lot of casual fans forget that Gabriel had already reunited with Genesis for an entire show—it just happened 20 years earlier. Oh, and it occurred not because of rosy nostalgia but due to mounting debt and death threats.
Gabriel staged the inaugural WOMAD (World of Music, Arts, and Dance) in July 1982, with the noble vision of sparking authentic cultural fusion. The three-day event featured British post-punk (Echo and the Bunnymen, Pigbag) and art-rock (Peter Hammill, Robert Fripp), traditional Irish folk (The Chieftains), Indian sitar players (Imrat Khan), Afro-Caribbean dance companies (Ekomé)—a legit
Why Gay Men Love Sex
Men, why is sex so important? There are the obvious reasons, like the powerful presence of testosterone in our bodies. And our “built-in” human crave for pleasure, connection, and affection.
But here’s another way to look at sex that gets less attention and goes a tiny deeper. Perhaps we are looking for transcendence. Sex is one of the few experiences that get us away from our daily, sometimes boring, lives.
Orgasm may be one of the only times we are fully present in the moment.
Transcendence doesn’t receive much attention these days. We live busy lives. Few us of observe to religion for transcendence anymore, and religious organizations that feel welcoming to gay men are tough to find.
And yet for most of us, something seems missing. Life can easily fall into a deadening routine of commute/work/commute again/gym/television/masturbation/eat/sleep and repeat. That, plus laundry.
“Men lead lives of quiet desperation,” said author Henry David Thoreau.
Some of us look for a feeling of transcendence with drugs or alcohol. That works great for the first few times but then we never seem to be qualified to get back to those first experiences. It’s like a mean trick. A
Tips for cis men who desire to try sex with other cis men – in a safe and respectful way
To begin, I’d like to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s crucial to understand that you can try new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.
Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and distinguish as men too.Cis is the opposite of trans. We confer trans men morehere, andhere’s some support and advice about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.
1. Be honest from the get-go that you’re curious
Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are empathetic