Our son is gay
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the retort to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman. In fact, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad undertake for his son? In a word: connect! I comprehend when saying that many dads might think, “I am connected to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being show doesn’t mean you have any compassionate of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can catch and understand. Proclamations of facts execute little to advance his heart. He wants words dripping with raw passion and heart-felt love. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and explain him how much you love him, how proud you are of him, and how you think he has what i
Support for Parents of Child Who Says He’s Gay
Before saying anything else, we want you to know that our hearts proceed out to you. Our prayers are with you, and we are privileged to have this opportunity to come alongside you in the midst of your pain and confusion.
The conflicting emotions you’re experiencing – crying one moment, angry the next – is a common and understandable reaction. Any loving parent in your position would feel the same way. It’s also very likely that you’re struggling with grief – the natural reaction that occurs when we’ve encountered loss. Though you may not yet recognize it, you’ve clueless something significant. It may be the image of and views you had about your son, your perceptions of yourself as a parent, or perhaps your desires and hopes for grandchildren. Whatever the case, it’s essential to identify and acknowledge the reality of these losses. You may find a helpful way to do this is though journaling or with the assistance of a wise pastor, counselor, your spouse, or a trusted friend.
Wise guidance and caring assist is especially invaluable during the early stages of this crisis. At some point you’l
Responding to Teen Child Who Says He’s Gay
I’m devastated that my son thinks he’s gay. One minute I’m so angry I could scream — and the next I just sit and cry. We love our son, but we don’t want the influence of same-sex attraction in our home (we have younger kids in the house).
ANSWER:
Before we declare anything else, know that our hearts go out to you in the pain and confusion of hearing your teen son tell you that he’s gay. The emotions you’re experiencing are understandable reactions of a concerned and loving parent. You’re knowledgeable to ask for input about how to deal with things, and we’ll cover several thoughts here:
Respond calmly and respectfully
So, how should you respond to what your son told you? Respectfully and in as cool-headed and non-reactive a way possible.
But don’t panic if you and your son have already had a blow-up with each other. Ask for forgiveness and the chance to begin over. Agree with him that you’ll both perform your best to remain away from hurtful attitudes and actions going forward. As with all interpersonal interactions, you can only governance your choices and action, not the other individual’s. Do your part to interact we
I Think Our Son is Gay Vol. 5 – The Focus Shifts in the Final Volume of Okura’s Heartwarming Manga Tale of Family and Acceptance
PRIDE MONTH 2024! If it’s Pride Month at Broken Frontier then it must be time for another review of Okura’s manga series I Think Our Son is Gay. We covered the first two volumes in June 2022, the third and fourth entries in June 2023, and here we are again with the fifth and ultimate number for Identity festival 2024. Beginning as an endearing but formulaic collection of short strips, I Think Our Son is Gay has evolved in its five volumes as overarching story arcs and character training moved ever further to the frontline in place of its original, semi-punchline led set-up.
That authentic premise played with the idea that Tomoko, the mother of the book’s focus character Hiroki Aoyama, had approach to suspect her schoolboy son was gay but not yet confident to come out. Preceding strips used a gentle observational humour in an “is he or isn’t he?” series of shorts. Other cast members include Hiroki’s little brother Yuri, his well-intentioned but tactless father Akiyoshi, his female pal Asumi who has her own passion on Hiroki, and his best ally Daigo wh